Research shows that between 30 and 45% of people want to change job. That is a hell of a lot of people not enjoying their work and feeling unfulfilled. Many of us fell into it by chance. Did you?
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Suffering from that âgoing back to work feelingâ?
Reality after the festive season reminds many people of going back to school at the start of a new term. A feeling of dread; shining those shoes; buying a new fluffy pencil case; the who got the best Christmas gift parade, but mainly the sinking feeling. Life can be so superspeed at work that it feels like being on a giant human hamster wheel.
I am heading to my allotment to water it with no prospect of rain in sight, and am pondering the thought that people are like vegetables. They need watering. Different people need to be watered in different ways as they have different values, needs and motivations. If only we came with an instruction manual, like a car or washing machine, it would be a lot easier.
Itâs a weird expression isnât it; âChip on the shoulderâ. I donât know where the expression comes from and whether itâs a âa bit missing kind of chipâ or a potato chip?! My interpretation of what it means is that itâs a sensitivity or insecurity that creates an over-reaction as we are looking for evidence to back it up and âfeed the monsterâ! Chips that I have encountered include; feeling on the outside looking in and excluded; not building rapport; or feeling we are not intelligent enough or creative enough. So we over-notice what other people say and do to prove our perception and then overreact as the chip is activated. Since there are an awful lot of people out there, thatâs a lot of âchipsâ and feeling vulnerable or dealing with uncertainty can magnify the overreaction. In a political or creative culture, there can be a lot of chips rattling around which inhibit full productivity and performance. Self awareness is key, but a lot of people are cynical about personal development, especially strongly âleft brainers;. Chips on the shoulder` are worth looking at because they can stop people from doing what they really want and truly being happy and fulfilled. A good way is to explore the limiting beliefs that have created the chip â itâs a but like clearing out the loft and creating space for good new things to happen. Whatâs your chip and what does it stop you from doing that you would like to? What are the chips of people close to you?
It’s very common, people don’t talk about it and it creates anxiety and unease. It can stop people from promoting their own successes at work. What is the ‘impostor’ syndrome? It is the feeling that your success has happened by accident, one day it’s going to catch up with you, you will be ‘found out’ and your employer will discover that you are not really as good as they thought you were. I have coached many people and I can reassure you that EVERYONE suffers from the ‘impostor’ syndrome at some time or other. That includes me! Low self-esteem is common and we all worry about whether we are ‘good enough’ in certain situations if not all. Naturally this is bound to increase when we are worried about losing our job in a tough market and when competition for promotions if employed or consultancy work if self-employed is very high. In coaching we call things like the ‘impostor’ syndrome Gremlins – they are the voices of your limiting beliefs that create noisy negative mental chatter and do your head in. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you are going mad. It’s quite normal – we just don’t talk about it. I have got about 7 Gremlins and I discovered a new one the other day too! I’ll have to get a referee up there soon to manage the crowd. Ask yourself: “In what specific situations is my ‘impostor’ most likely to make an appearance and what’s the trigger? ” Remember that you are not alone! Tips to keep your ‘impostor’ syndrome in check? 1) Most people suffer from the ‘impostor’ syndrome. I have only met one person who had no limiting beliefs at all – that’s called a fluke/miracle/delusion! 2) Spend 5 mins at the end of each day reflecting on what’s gone well. If you haven’t been discovered yet, perhaps you can get away with it after all?! 3) Picture your ‘impostor’ in an over-the-top disguise – it’ll make you laugh and relax you. Have a sunny weekend! PS – Next Energise Steer your career workshop Monday 5 July – look at our web site:http://www.liberateyourtalent.com/cms/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=32&Itemid=51 Rachel