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Success at work?

I had a lovely e mail from a client this week who had left their job because they couldn’t stand it anymore, and were loving their new role, working 3 days a week in a culture conducive to their values and feeling they were making a difference and living life ‘on purpose’. To quote their words:

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What Floats Your Boat?

Success and what it means is such an individual thing isn’t it, but it doesn’t always feel like that. I find that a lot of people are living lives and doing jobs that actually don’t give them what they want. Our society is hugely money and status driven, but research shows that after a certain point, it doesn’t affect happiness. We can feel pressure to work harder and push for promotion and get a better house or car, when actually what we want is to have more time.    Many people do ‘shoulds, oughts and musts’ when actually doing what they want would float their boat a lot more. In coaching we call it living life by your values – i.e. what’s important to you.

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Why People Are Like Vegetables

I am heading to my allotment to water it with no prospect of rain in sight,  and am pondering the thought that people are like vegetables. They need watering. Different people need to be watered in different ways as they have different values, needs and motivations. If only we came with an instruction manual, like a car or washing machine, it would be a lot easier.   

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Chip On The Shoulder? Ketchup With That?

 

It’s a weird expression isn’t it; ‘Chip on the shoulder’. I don’t know where the expression comes from and whether it’s a “a bit missing kind of chip” or a potato chip?!  My interpretation of what it means is that it’s a sensitivity or insecurity that creates an over-reaction as we are looking for evidence to back it up and ‘feed the monster’!  Chips that I have encountered include; feeling on the outside looking in and excluded; not building rapport; or feeling we are not intelligent enough or creative enough. So we over-notice what other people say and do to prove our perception and then overreact as the chip is activated.  Since there are an awful lot of people out there, that’s a lot of ‘chips’ and feeling vulnerable or dealing with uncertainty can magnify the overreaction. In a political or creative culture, there can be a lot of chips rattling around which inhibit full productivity and performance. Self awareness is key, but a lot of people are cynical about personal development, especially strongly ‘left brainers;. Chips on the shoulder` are worth looking at because they can stop people from doing what they really want and truly being happy and fulfilled. A good way is to explore the limiting beliefs that have created the chip – it’s a but like clearing out the loft and creating space for good new things to happen. What’s your chip and what does it stop you from doing that you would like to? What are the chips of people close to you?    

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How Merry Are you Feeling This Monday?

Do you ever have a bad day and wish you’d stayed in bed, venturing no further than your nose peeking out of the duvet?  We’re very good aren’t we at asking ‘how are you?’ It’s one of those stock phrases, but the truth is that this phrase is used more as a conversational cul de sac, than a genuine interest for how you are feeling. It might be a fun experiment to answer it honestly today at work, so instead of saying ‘fine’ or ‘great’ to say how you really feel and notice the reaction.

 

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What’s your creative answer to "What do you do?"

Our nation is obsessed with that question “What do you do?” I hate this and see many executives who have been made redundant struggle with this is they lose their identity without a job, as it was such a big part of their lives.  I like having bit of fun when answering the ‘what do you do’ question and sometimes pretend to be an unusual career e.g. belly dancer or use a line such as “I stop people from going mad at work.” People think I must be a business or occupational psychologist, but as a career strategist, coach and employee engagement, I do stop people going mad at work! 

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Do you suffer from the ‘impostor’ syndrome too?

It’s very common, people don’t talk about it and it creates anxiety and unease. It can stop people from promoting their own successes at work.  What is the ‘impostor’ syndrome?  It is the feeling that your success has happened by accident, one day it’s going to catch up with you, you will be ‘found out’ and your employer will discover that you are not really as good as they thought you were.  I have coached many people and I can reassure you that EVERYONE suffers from the ‘impostor’ syndrome at some time or other. That includes me! Low self-esteem is common and we all worry about whether we are ‘good enough’ in certain situations if not all. Naturally this is bound to increase when we are worried about losing our job in a tough market and when competition for promotions if employed or consultancy work if self-employed is very high.   In coaching we call things like the ‘impostor’ syndrome Gremlins – they are the voices of your limiting beliefs that create noisy negative mental chatter and do your head in. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you are going mad. It’s quite normal – we just don’t talk about it. I have got about 7 Gremlins and I discovered a new one the other day too!  I’ll have to get a referee up there soon to manage the crowd. Ask yourself: “In what specific situations is my ‘impostor’ most likely to make an appearance and what’s the trigger? “  Remember that you are not alone!  Tips to keep your ‘impostor’ syndrome in check?  1) Most people suffer from the ‘impostor’ syndrome. I have only met one person who had no limiting beliefs at all – that’s called a fluke/miracle/delusion! 2) Spend 5 mins at the end of each day reflecting on what’s gone well. If you haven’t been discovered yet, perhaps you can get away with it after all?! 3) Picture your ‘impostor’ in an over-the-top disguise – it’ll make you laugh and relax you.  Have a sunny weekend!  PS – Next Energise Steer your career workshop Monday 5 July – look at our web site:http://www.liberateyourtalent.com/cms/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=32&Itemid=51 Rachel

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